Bullets Dodged or Opportunities Missed

My former girlfriend1, Sarah, recently became engaged. I really don’t have anything to say on the subject, I only met her boyfriend fiancé during a fleeting moment at E-Days while I was taking photos. After we broke up, we both moved on and I think it was, and still is, for the better. For me, the more interesting thought is the What If….

Over the last six years, I’ve had what I’ll graciously call four encounters; of those four, half are now engaged2. Now, I’m not saying I want to be engaged3. But, it does make me pause to wonder…what if I was engaged to one of these persons? How would life be different? Would I even want to be engaged to one of these persons?

As I continue to grow, more and more friends are getting married. Although statistically speaking, I’m still in the majority4).

Just some free flowing musings.

  1. I’m not a fan of saying, ex-girlfriend…it seems unnecessarily cruel 

  2. Three out of five if you count the girl I took to prom 

  3. Can I get a hells-to-the-no, please. Thanks. 

  4. Median age of marriage in the United States is 27.7 for males (source 

Photographer for Hire

Background: Another couple friends of mine got engaged this past weekend. I was talking with them at Old Chicago’s (which is where we go after Merge) and they were wondering if I’d shoot their Engagement photos. I said yes, explaining to them how I’ve been wanting to do more portrait photography this year. I was eventually planning on blogging about, but I guess I just do it now.

I feel that I’m pretty much at a place where I feel confident offering my photography skills for hire. I’m also looking for a new challenge in photography, mainly taking pictures of people.

I have not set rates yet, but I guarantee that they will be very competitive. I would be interested in shooting engagement photos and general portraits. I would not like to shoot birthday parties or other real-time events for the time being, this means that I probably would not shooting weddings, although feel free to ask.

I currently have Fridays and weekends available, so drop me a line if you’re even interested (my contact information is always on the front of my blog). I’m definitely up for negotiating prices, so you really have nothing to lose.

To give you an idea of what I’m thinking about offering:

  • Taking 100-200 photos over a couple hours on location(s)
  • Delivering 25-75 processed photos in JPEG (possibly DNG if requested)
  • Physical prints would be extra, but affordable with minimal markup
  • Option for producing a photobook
  • Online photo gallery (probably through Flickr, maybe through another source)



The $490,452 Question

Adam Smiley called today to inform me that over break he proposed to Natalie and will be getting married this summer. This, along with the other people in my life who are married or dating, requires me to contemplate my own status as a single and unattached bachelor (that’s actually redundant, whatever).

Specifically, with only 4 months before I graduate, is now really the time to begin seeking out a relationship? If not now, when? I could theoretically come up with a reason to put off romance for the rest of my life, I think, with one excuse after another precluding me from ever having to become engaged.

At some point, you just have to jump and now seems as good a time as any. Maybe.

(All of this is not to say that I’m going to spend 100% of my time seeking a relationship. But, perhaps, entertain the idea of maybe dating someone.)

Update: Also worth adding: