Love Life…Or Lack Thereof

Once upon a time….

Once upon a time….
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
…. in a land far away….
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
…. there lived a boy….
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
…. who was waiting.

He loved his family, he loved his friends, and more than anything, he loved God.

Now, this prince had within his heart a desire — a desire that one day, another would come who would glorify the Lord with him and walk this path of life.

So, he waited1 in the arms of his Father, knowing that all He does is perfect.

Then one day….
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
…. his Father said….
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
…. “it is time.”2

I would like you to know that I have a girlfriend. Her name is Carly and she’s awesome. We’ve been good friends for several months now (we also went to Haiti together) and after lots of back and forth-ing, some might even say arguing, I asked her out two weeks ago and then we decided to start dating.

To say it’s been a long road to this point would be an understatement. However, we both agree that the adventure is just beginning. Unfortunately, Le GF is going on a road trip tomorrow, followed by me taking a trip to Colorado, so I won’t see her for a week-and-a-half.

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  1. though impatient at times 

  2. NB: This is based on something my cousin, Katie, originally wrote. I’m repurposing it because I honestly don’t have a better way to express my thoughts. 

You Need a Commitment Strategy Not an Exit Strategy

I’m reading Rework by Jason Fried and David Hansson of 37signals. It’s very much a book about business, management, and entrepreneurship. But I came across this section and couldn’t help but see how it was applicable to my life in dating:

Would you go into a relationship planning the breakup? Would you write the prenup on a first date? Would you meet with a divorce lawyer the morning of your wedding? That would be ridiculous, right?

You need a commitment strategy, not an exit strategy. You should be thinking about how to make your project grow and succeed, not how you’re going to jump ship. If your whole strategy is based on leaving, chances are you won’t get far in the first place.

Don’t be that guy. If you do manage to get a good thing going, keep it going. Good things don’t come around that often. Don’t let your business be the one that got away.

I also love the illustrations!

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The New iPhone

Apple has, yet again, released a new iPhone. To no ones surprise, it looks strikingly similar to one that Gizmodo managed to acquire under dubious circumstances, at best, a few months ago. I’m currently oogling how small it is:

Photo by Dean Putney. Released under Creative Commons: http://www.boingboing.net/2010/06/07/boing-boing-at-the-w.html

My droid comes in a 14mm thick versus the iPhone 4G 9.4mm1, almost a 33% reduction in thickness…that’s notable. Even compared to the iPhone 3G, which measures 12.3mm thick, it’s about a 24% reduction.

The Apple A4 also makes an appearance in the updated iPhone, which I think is interesting given Apple’s history with Motorola and now Intel. Could they be looking to dump Intel and produce there own CPUs?

Photo by Dean Putney. Released under Creative Commons: http://www.boingboing.net/2010/06/07/boing-boing-at-the-w.html

Apparently, I’ve also been going about dating wrong:

Photo by Dean Putney. Released under Creative Commons: http://www.boingboing.net/2010/06/07/boing-boing-at-the-w.html

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  1. if you are to believe the Gizmodo measurements 

How Any Enginerd Can Date a Beautiful Woman

Ignite Seattle 10 is coming up just around the corner on June 14th, so mark your calendars. They had a call for submissions and I thought, “What the heck. But what to present on? It needs to be funny, but also relevant. And not a shill for some product.”

As it turned out, I had already asked this question from the last time I wanted to present at Ignite Boulder. I flipped through the comments and decided that Jeff’s suggestion on How Any Man Can Pick Up Beautiful Women would be good starting point.

I submitted my topic suggestion with the following description:

I am a nerd, and I am an engineer.

How do I know this? Because I was drawing schematics of Star Trek related devices when I was in 5th grade, I ran my own web server from my home when I was in 9th grade, and, most importantly, I just (well, a year ago) graduated from the Colorado School of Mines with a BS in Engineering, Specialty in Electrical Systems, Area of Special Interest in Mechanical Systems.

Now, I work for an aerodefensespace1 corporation, as an engineer.

And I’m dating a beautiful woman; actually, that’s not quite true.

But I have learned a lot about being an enginerd and being able to talk to women. And have them talk to me.

So, just because I haven’t found the “love of my life,” the Deanna Troi to my Will Riker, doesn’t mean that you can’t benefit from what I’ve learned.

It’s a shoe-in to win, right? Not quite. Unfortunately, I was not selected for the round of Ignite talks (they had a record number of entries). So you’ll have to wait for now.2

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  1. I thought about shortening this to “aerodeface” 

  2. Story of my life…. 

Bullets Dodged or Opportunities Missed

My former girlfriend1, Sarah, recently became engaged. I really don’t have anything to say on the subject, I only met her boyfriend fiancé during a fleeting moment at E-Days while I was taking photos. After we broke up, we both moved on and I think it was, and still is, for the better. For me, the more interesting thought is the What If….

Over the last six years, I’ve had what I’ll graciously call four encounters; of those four, half are now engaged2. Now, I’m not saying I want to be engaged3. But, it does make me pause to wonder…what if I was engaged to one of these persons? How would life be different? Would I even want to be engaged to one of these persons?

As I continue to grow, more and more friends are getting married. Although statistically speaking, I’m still in the majority4).

Just some free flowing musings.

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  1. I’m not a fan of saying, ex-girlfriend…it seems unnecessarily cruel 

  2. Three out of five if you count the girl I took to prom 

  3. Can I get a hells-to-the-no, please. Thanks. 

  4. Median age of marriage in the United States is 27.7 for males (source