Andrew Ferguson
Rejecting Your Reality and Substituting My Own Since 1986
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My former girlfriend[1], Sarah, recently became engaged. I really don’t have anything to say on the subject, I only met her boyfriend fiancé during a fleeting moment at E-Days while I was taking photos. After we broke up, we both moved on and I think it was, and still is, for the better. For me, the more interesting thought is the What If….
Over the last six years, I’ve had what I’ll graciously call four encounters; of those four, half are now engaged[2]. Now, I’m not saying I want to be engaged[3]. But, it does make me pause to wonder…what if I was engaged to one of these persons? How would life be different? Would I even want to be engaged to one of these persons?
As I continue to grow, more and more friends are getting married. Although statistically speaking, I’m still in the majority[4]).
Just some free flowing musings.
- I’m not a fan of saying, ex-girlfriend…it seems unnecessarily cruel [↩]
- Three out of five if you count the girl I took to prom [↩]
- Can I get a hells-to-the-no, please. Thanks. [↩]
- Median age of marriage in the United States is 27.7 for males (source [↩]
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Dilbert on Dating
My uncle alerted me to two following Dilbert cartoons that recently came out:
Dilbert from 10 April 2009
Dilbert from 11 April 2009
The older I get, the funnier Dilbert becomes.
The $490,452 Question
Adam Smiley called today to inform me that over break he proposed to Natalie and will be getting married this summer. This, along with the other people in my life who are married or dating, requires me to contemplate my own status as a single and unattached bachelor (that’s actually redundant, whatever).
Specifically, with only 4 months before I graduate, is now really the time to begin seeking out a relationship? If not now, when? I could theoretically come up with a reason to put off romance for the rest of my life, I think, with one excuse after another precluding me from ever having to become engaged.
At some point, you just have to jump and now seems as good a time as any. Maybe.
(All of this is not to say that I’m going to spend 100% of my time seeking a relationship. But, perhaps, entertain the idea of maybe dating someone.)
Update: Also worth adding:
Tags: Adam Smiley, bachelor, engaged, graduation, Natalie P, relationship
Physical Theories as Women
Humorous.
From www.mcsweeneys.net:0. Newtonian gravity is your high-school girlfriend. As your first encounter with physics, she’s amazing. You will never forget Newtonian gravity, even if you’re not in touch very much anymore.
1. Electrodynamics is your college girlfriend. Pretty complex, you probably won’t date long enough to really understand her.
2. Special relativity is the girl you meet at the dorm party…
There are nine in total. Worth reading if you enjoy this sort of thing.
via Kottke
Tags: Electrodynamics, Newtonian, physics, Special relativity
Time to Proposal
I can’t remember where I picked this tid-bit up, but a study conducted by National Wedding (they’re British) says that the time between the first date and the proposal is two years, 11 months, and eight days….so about three years.
So Mom, don’t expect any little Fergie’s running around anytime soon.
Dating Pools
XKCD really needs to get out of my head. Two notes on this comic: A) is validates the long standing rule on minimum dating age (aka standard creepiness rule) of [(your_age/2) + 7], which I first heard on the Bryan Suits show when he was still at KIRO, circa 2001-ish. 21) this is a comic of hope. After having been to a half-dozen weddings this past summer, one can’t help but to feel a little out of place. I’m certainly not in any rush, but at the same time, I don’t have a plan either.
1 Yes, I know I used A and then 2….it’s funnier that way. Trust me.
More Conflagrations of a Musing Mind
After Friday nights encounter, I’ll admit that I was pretty much on cloud nine. Getting up to this point had been fraught with difficulties, but I was there. What next? When she gave me her number, it was with the instructions to call the next time we were having a party. Thus, the goal was to schedule a party ASAP.
Fortunately for me, Seafair coming up and after much consideration with my cohorts we were able to pull together a small group of friends to go out on Peter’s Whaler.
Saturday morning rolls around quickly enough. I pick her up, we chat about the week. She’s had some car trouble (blown radiator) and issues with a new employee. I’ve been having a butt of a time with the ICDs (interconnect drawings) and that’s that.
Get to Peter’s house boat and chat about music. I find out she like Punk Rock. I make a mental note to explore that genre. We eventually get out on boat only to find it almost devoid of gas. Everyone (sans Peter, Ben, and Tresa) get off at Ivar’s
Now the absolute worst thing that could happen at this point (assuming a finite set of realistic possibilities) is that we end up getting to the point of dating. Why is this bad? Let me lay it out:
I leave in 11 days to head back to Colorado to start school in 14 days. In September, she leaves for Italy.
I would be fooling myself to think that a long distance relationship would work. Yes, it might. But honestly, it would probably be too stressful. I’m
I’m still trying to figure out whether it’s infatuation or musing.